Bride-to-Be Demands Bridesmaid Dye Her Hair to Be within the Wedding

A bridesmaid is popping to the web for some recommendation after her longtime finest good friend who’s getting married steered she dye her hair for her upcoming marriage ceremony.

The girl shared in a submit on Reddit’s common “Bridezillas” subreddit that she lately had an trade with the bride, which “rubbed” her “the wrong way” and needed to know tips on how to deal with the scenario.

She shared a screenshot of the textual content the bride supposedly despatched her, which learn: “I meant to mention this and forgot… Bridesmaid dresses are going to be a bright, deep red so you may want to go back to black for a short amount of time. Sorry to f— up your punk rock look.”

The bridesmaid stated her good friend made a remark joking about her brilliant crimson hair — which she stated she might “handle” — however then advised her sister that she was “going to dye it back to black.” The bridesmaid famous that this was one thing she “never said” she “would do.”

“It just felt like she was making decisions about me without asking, and that rubbed me the wrong way,” she wrote on Reddit. “I don’t want to be dramatic, but I’m starting to feel like maybe I should still attend her wedding but not be a bridesmaid.”

“I would never ask my friends to change how they look for my big day, especially something as personal as their hair. Am I overthinking this?” she added.

She additionally famous that she felt that the best way her good friend has spoken to her has “changed” over “the past few years” and she will come off “really harsh or dismissive.” She stated it has gotten to the purpose the place she generally seems like she’s “walking on eggshells around her.”

In response, a number of individuals on Reddit steered that she ship a message to her good friend asking if she meant what she stated about her bridesmaid having to dye her hair. One individual stated that if the bride stated she “meant it” then the bridesmaid ought to decline.

One individual commented: “[It’s absurd of people to try to change you for ‘their’ big day. a) it is not yours, b) it is only one day but you are supposed to bend to their will and do something costly and time consuming and potentially damaging…”

Another person suggested that the woman “stay blunt” to her friend as “people pleasing gets you nothing but walked on.” 

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They continued, “if I were you, I would tell her I was stepping down as a bridesmaid. This is nothing short of a personal attack. If it were me, I couldn’t enjoy the wedding if I thought the bride was obsessed with my hair.” 

Another added, “if someone is asking this of you, they are not a friend who accepts you completely as you are, and that should be your most important consideration.”