Woman Is Called ‘Monstrous’ for Asking for a Bigger Inheritance

A lady has been referred to as “monstrous” for asking for a bigger portion of a household inheritance — even if she is her grandmother’s main caretaker.

The 32-year-old detailed her expertise on Reddit’s “Am I the A——” discussion board, the place she sought recommendation and enter from fellow platform customers. In her put up, the girl defined that she has been dwelling together with her 95-year-old grandmother for the previous three years. She stated the association has been “mutually beneficial,” as she has been capable of dwell rent-free whereas her grandmother has had “somebody around to clean the house, take care of the house, cook dinner, and handle medical emergencies.”

However, the scenario not too long ago modified dramatically when her grandmother suffered a number of strokes. “She lost her vision completely, and her balance is also no longer great. She cannot walk to the bathroom herself, get on the toilet alone, or shower without assistance,” the girl wrote.

She additionally shared that her grandmother has been given 12-14 months to dwell, and her mom — who lives regionally —  is anticipating her “to take on the entirety of the care or at least the majority of the care while she plans on inheriting everything [from] my grandmother.”

The Redditor stated that due to this, she has requested to inherit her deceased aunt’s house in full — which has not but been offered and is technically imagined to be divided equally amongst herself, her grandmother and her mom. She went on to say that she would ideally prefer to lease her aunt’s house out to a tenant with a purpose to assist pay for in-home help for her grandmother “so that I don’t burn out.”

The girl added that she isn’t in her grandmother’s will, so her mom will ultimately inherit the home that she presently lives in, together with every thing inside it. 

However, the OP stated that she has been met with “outrage” over her suggestion and that she has been accused of “charging” her mom for caring for her grandma, including, “I have been told by all of my mother’s friends who live in the area that I am monstrous and selfish.”

“I wouldn’t ask for anything if my grandmother didn’t have anything. But as […] is I feel like I’m being very reasonable to ask for around the 5th of what my mom is set to inherit,” she concluded.

Reddit customers have been fast to guarantee the girl that her request was not unreasonable.

“Demanding an inheritance before someone even dies is generally an a—— move. But in context, you are not obligated to care for your grandma. Caring for a sick person is very hard work and asking for compensation is reasonable,” wrote one particular person.

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“NTA [not the a——],” wrote one other person earlier than including, “You’re providing full-time care for your grandmother while your mom, who lives five minutes away, barely lifts a finger. Expecting some form of compensation—especially when there’s a hefty inheritance involved—is completely reasonable. If your mom wants to inherit everything but refuses to share the responsibility, that’s on her. You’re not ‘charging’ them; you’re asking for fairness. If they don’t want to compensate you, they can step up and take care of her themselves.”

Other customers strongly suggested the OP to try to set some strong boundaries together with her mom.

“Money brings out the worst in people. You need to create boundaries about what care you can and can not provide and tell your mother she needs to be responsible for arranging anything else,” wrote a Redditor.