John Mayer is opening up!
On Tuesday, the singer sat down with Alex Cooper on the Call Her Daddy podcast to get candid about his stacked courting historical past, the inspiration behind certainly one of his hottest songs, and what his intercourse life is like today.
After incomes himself the repute of a playboy for his previous flings with stars like Jessica Simpson, Jennifer Aniston, Katy Perry, and Taylor Swift, the musician curiously insists that every one he’s ever wished was a “deep, meaningful, and secure” relationship — and sure, marriage is the endgame! He’s so critical about settling down in the future that he “can’t wait” to combat about dry-cleaning along with his future spouse, he defined:
“Nothing’s hotter to me than conflict resolution. I am horny for conflict resolution.”
John Mayer dreaming of home life?! Who would have thunk it?
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While this can be his aim, the 45-year-old isn’t doing something to achieve it currently. Despite being most just lately linked to a lot youthful Chilling Adventures of Sabrina star Kiernan Shipka, 23, he insisted he’s “currently single” and never actively trying to mingle. That’s to not say he isn’t seeing different individuals — he simply doesn’t assume he has to do a lot to draw the women:
“Dating is no longer a codified activity for me. I don’t really date. I don’t think that I have to, to be quite honest. I quit drinking like six years ago, so I don’t have the liquid courage. I just have dry courage.”
LOLz! He’s positive assured (or cocky…)!
Interestingly, John’s resolution to go sober has really impacted his courting life so much! Not solely does it make asking a lady out tougher, however the relationship tends to be deeper, he shared:
“You have to be honest. You have to express yourself. You have to be really glaringly honest.”
The songwriter continued:
“You have to express your anxieties. You can’t just walk over them by drinking. You have to be like, ‘This is what I’m anxious about.’ And when someone in life accommodates your anxiety, that’s bonding. I don’t think I’m truly connected with someone until I freak out a little bit and they go, ‘It’s OK.’”
Aw! Sweet! Getting to this place of honesty in relationships has additionally solidified what he’s searching for in a romance. Proving he desires to stroll down the aisle in the future, he expressed:
“Every relationship I’ve ever been in was devoted to the idea that this could go the distance. My entire life, today included, if you told me that I could have a great two months with someone but it would end on the first day of the third month, I would not be interested. I’ve always sought potential for a long-term relationship.”
This is a giant change from his youthful self — who grabbed onto each little bit of romance he obtained since he grew up feeling like he didn’t deserve it and was, subsequently, always searching for “approval.” He dished:
“I was made to believe, growing up, that if somebody liked me, it was pretty much an accident and should be capitalized on. So, I felt very deeply when somebody liked me.”
Despite having “a few nameplates on [him], like ‘Lothario,’” AKA a man who behaves irresponsibly or selfishly in a sexual relationship, Mayer said he “did invest” himself into several of his relationships. All that said, though, he hasn’t had the type of love story he hopes to in the future. While he’s been in love earlier than, John by no means had a “smooth sailing” romance, he famous:
“I haven’t really got to the part of relationship that was the ‘smooth sailing’ part. I have a feeling when I do, I’m gonna have a lot to work on — but I’ll be excited to work on it.”
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As for the star’s 2001 smash hit Your Body Is A Wonderland, the Grammy winner insisted the music was primarily based on this “one and only high school girlfriend,” and never certainly one of his former celeb girlfriends as rumors have speculated. He revealed:
“That was about my first girlfriend. I was 21 when I wrote that song and I was nostalgic for being 16.”
If you didn’t know, most followers have speculated the music was written about Jennifer Love Hewitt, although they have been publicly confirmed to be courting a yr after the music got here out and she or he has denied she was the inspiration. Shutting down rumors for good (with out naming names), John informed listeners:
“It’s one of those things where people just form that idea [and] it gets reinforced over the years. No, no, no, I have never met a celebrity when I wrote that song.”
After performing two of his songs, Dancing in a Burning Room and Why Georgia, on the podcast, the host questioned if he ever performs the guitar for his lovers earlier than intercourse — and the reply would possibly shock you! John revealed:
“No, I do it after sometimes. No, you should never play guitar to have sex with someone, but a little naked guitar playing after is very memorable.”
LMAO! Not solely does he assume pulling out the guitar helps him with the women, however he appears to benefit from the awkwardness of the second post-sex, too! He defined:
“With a little gut hanging over, sitting Indian-style on the edge of the bed. It’s nice! I like seeing the way people fold up all weird when they sit up. No matter who you are, you look weird when you sit up. And it’s cute.”
Hah! While there ya have it! He didn’t spill an excessive amount of about his precise romances (sigh), however at the very least we all know how he likes to attraction his dates within the bed room. LOLz! Reactions, Perezcious readers? Anything shock you? Sound OFF (under)!
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