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Selena Gomez, 30, opened up about her emotions and development as an individual, in a brand new interview. The singer admitted she’s glad she went by previous heartbreaks, together with the heartbreak from her earlier on-again, off-again romance with Justin Bieber, in her life, and nonetheless has “hope” to find love that’s proper for her sooner or later. “I feel like giving myself completely to something is the best way I can love,” she mentioned on the newest episode of Jay Shetty’s “On Purpose” podcast. “But I never wanted the pain that I endured to put some sort of guard on myself — an armor if you will — and I never let that happen because I still believe and I still hope.”
Selena went on to disclose that though there are “days that I feel so far away” from being in one other relationship, when all is alleged and carried out, “I would rather continue to get my heartbroken than to not feel at all.”
The “Good For You” crooner had a really high-profile on and off relationship with Justin from 2011 till 2018 and in addition dated The Weeknd for 10 months earlier than breaking apart in Oct. 2017. She mentioned her love life and what she’s discovered from the drama and struggles, in her new documentary, Selena Gomez: My Mind & Me, which was launched on Nov. 4. She additionally instructed Jay that she doesn’t need individuals to have a look at her and suppose she “has it all” regardless of her fame and fortune.
“I think I really ultimately wanted people to realize that I’m really not that put together. I can be. And I feel much better now. But I don’t want people to ever look at me and think she has it all. And she’s figured it out, and she is perfect,” she defined. “I just want to be someone that people can genuinely walk up to and say, ‘hey, I understand what you walked through. I did too.’”
Selena additionally touched on being recognized with bipolar dysfunction in 2019, which she talked about in her documentary, and the way she’s been coping with it. “My favorite thing I say in the documentary, ‘I have bipolar.’ I learned how to live with it, and I just have made it my friend,” she mentioned. “To be honest, I’ve been to four treatment centers, and I have a lot of opinions on rehabs if you will. There’s a lot that I don’t agree with.”
After going thorough experiences, she has discovered that accepting the truth of no matter state of affairs she’s in, is what results in change and enchancment. “But what I will say is…learning lessons through dialectical behavior or cognitive behavior therapy, there is something that has always been embedded in me throughout all those different moments in my life,” she shared. “And that was always to recognize when something is happening to me, accepting it. And once I realized that this was something that wasn’t going to go away…it wasn’t something that was going to be fixed by going to these places. It was more so, what can I know about myself. If I go down this road, I will be triggered, and I know that feeling and know how to avoid it. However, I go to therapy. I also take medication that I fully am on and believe in wholeheartedly. And it helps me stay balanced. But I still have to deal with it.”
Another poignant topic she talked about within the podcast interview was how she navigates critics and adverse press about her. “I really had to learn the hard way on how to deal with it…not give that clickbait that people want,” she mentioned. “I do my best to try and eliminate these negative stories or other people illustrating my journey. I interrupt them with my truth and that’s what I will always continue to do. It’s me taking control of my story and no one can change that, or say anything different.”
“It actually gives me pleasure to combat it with love or kindness,” added. “I’m grateful for my past because it’s made me a lot stronger.”